Are you one of those individuals who finds it difficult to say 'no' to people's requests? Do you find that once you say 'yes', you immediately regret it because deep down you did not feel like saying 'yes'? Well, you are not alone!
But if you do enough self-exploration and understand why you have the need to please others even when it is to your own detriment, you will realise that it is not only safe and healthy to have boundaries, but also the prerequisite to gaining back your self-worth.
Only then will you be able to freely say the following:
I have the right to say no. I have the right to have boundaries. These are my boundaries. And you are not allowed to cross them unless I invite you.
It is also important to know the difference between being helpful and being a constant rescuer who puts other people's needs before their own. When you start feeling that your needs matter, you will feel that YOU matter. And you will move from being a rescuer, who has the need to be helpful even when other people do not ask for help, to a compassionate being who knows when to attend to other people's needs and when to attend to your own needs.